Life does not always go as we want. Sometimes things go wrong and we have no choice but to go on. It’s not always easy, sometimes it feels that the destiny is very unfair and we wonder why something like that happened to us. However, when everything seems dark, we must think that we always have the opportunity to choose how to walk this way to make it less hard.
This beautiful video titled “Lost Objects” invites us to reflect on the hard shots that give us life through the eyes of love and memory. The video, which is a real jewel, was written and directed by Åsa Lucander, a Scandinavian illustrator who lives in London. I do not tell you what is about for not ruining the end, but I assure you that every single minute is worth it.
Three great lessons for life
As you have seen, the video refers to the devastating effects of dementia, a problem that, according to WHO, affects 47 million people worldwide with 9.9 million new cases every year.
Although it is very sad to lose memory, because with this we lose not only our identity, but also our memories and, in some ways, the people we love, this short video also contains important lessons that allow us to see life from another perspective.
1. Patience, patience, a lot of patience. Sometimes, when we think everything is lost, we just have to keep insisting. Many of the situations we face in life require tremendous patience until we resolve them. We must learn to live with that dose of uncertainty and not fall into the trap of “conclusionism”, which only serves to increase tension and anxiety. Of course, it’s not easy, no one said it was. Patience requires adding other ingredients, such as perseverance and hope.
2. Sometimes, it’s not the big things, but the little ones that make life worth living. In our life, we care too much about doing great things, pursuing big projects, and believing that we will not be happy until we realize them. But as we age, we realize that are the small things which really matter, and we’ve always had them at hand, but we have not been able to value and enjoy them as we could. It is not about giving up dreams, sure you must struggle to accomplish them, but you also have to slowly savor your life as you do it.
3. The reality of those we love does not always coincide with ours, seeking common points can be a wonderful trip. Our reality is unique, just like the people we love. We really do not see the world as it is, but how we are. Therefore, we must not force the others to meet our expectations as well as we do not have to satisfy them. The key is to find a wonderful common point where both visions converge. The basis for healthy and mature relationships is to be and let the others be, finding common points to grow together. This is a small perspective change that will change everything.