Updated: 05/11/2023 por Jennifer Delgado | Published: 04/11/2021
Nobody likes to experience uncomfortable feelings. However, uncomfortable feelings are part of life and in many cases can even become indicators that we are on the right track.
In fact, when we are growing or exploring new horizons we can experience emotions such as fear or discomfort. Often, our aversion to unpleasant sensations prompts us to back away, instead of embracing those unsettling emotions that are really just an expression of the change we are making.
Uncomfortable feelings can be indicators of great things in life
1. Feeling lost and aimless. Sometimes to find ourselves we must first lose ourselves. The sensation of feeling disoriented and aimless can be scary and can even be mistaken for depression, but it could simply be an indicator that we urgently need to make a change in our life. Sometimes when we mature, we begin to realize what we don’t want, even though we don’t yet know exactly what we want. That can make us feel lost, but we just need to consider possible directions.
2. Experiencing very intense and seemingly irrational feelings. In some cases, seemingly irrational feelings can be a symptom of emotional instability, but this is not always the case. Sometimes, especially when you reconnect with yourself, you can experience very intense feelings, from deep peace and love to great anger or sadness. Those unexpected emotional shocks are just trying to alert you that you need to take your emotions and give them more space in your life. In fact, they are often just trying to tell you to let them come into your consciousness and give them space.
3. Fear of leaving the comfort zone. Many times, when we are about to undertake something new, we are gripped by an unmistakable feeling of fear and uncertainty. In reality, it is about the fear to get out of your comfort zone and it is not a negative emotion, but it is just warning you that you are about to enter unfamiliar terrain and you should be careful. That fear can cause you to back down to take refuge in the known, but remember that if you never leave your comfort zone, you will not be able to test your abilities and discover new things.
4. Not being sure of who you are. We all have times when we become insecure, particularly during times of change or difficulties. In reality, having doubts about our identity is not a problem of self-esteem or self-confidence but just an indication that you could be evolving as a person and you need to question things that you previously took for granted. That is, the person you know is changing and many of his past beliefs are being replaced, so it is normal that you have doubts and insecurities about your values, goals and beliefs. You can take advantage of that insecurity to look inside yourself and discover what you want now.
5. Experiencing an intense desire to be alone. When we isolate ourselves from the others, we often do so thinking that we are depressed. However it is not always so. When there are too many people around you and you go from one engagement to the next, it’s easy to get lost in that social hubbub. Therefore, sometimes the desire to be alone implies the need to enter a period of self-reflection to recalibrate your mind. It is not something negative, on the contrary, it will allow you to look inside yourself and reevaluate what you are doing.
6. Realize that you are solely responsible for your life and happiness. As you advance in self-knowledge, you realize that you are solely responsible for your life and your happiness. Initially, that kind of responsibility is often overwhelming. You can feel the weight of that pressure on your shoulders. As Erich Fromm said, it is the fear of freedom and of taking responsibility for your actions. However, embracing this feeling as a symbol of growth is the first step towards your future achievements.
