Have you ever stopped to think about all the unknowns? I’m not talking about how your printer works or how your mom manages to remember all the family birthdays, but rather questions of a more existential nature: Why are we here? What is the meaning of life? The kinds of questions we’ve all asked ourselves at some point, whether on a lonely, rainy afternoon or, worse yet, when we can’t sleep at 3 a.m.
Throughout history, many philosophers have also attempted to answer these existential dilemmas. But the truth is that the mysteries of existence are not the exclusive domain of philosophers and spiritual gurus; we can all—and should all—ask ourselves these questions and try to find answers. And to do so, we have a very powerful weapon: existential intelligence.
What is Existential or Spiritual Intelligence?
While emotional intelligence allows us to manage our feelings and logical intelligence helps us solve complex problems, existential intelligence focuses on transcendence.
In fact, twelve years after presenting his theory of multiple intelligences in 1983, psychologist Howard Gardner speculated about the possibility of a ninth intelligence, which he called “existential” or spiritual intelligence.
He was referring to “the cognitive capacity to ask and reflect on ‘big questions’ – questions about love, about evil, about life and death, about the nature and quality of existence.”
Existential intelligence is, therefore, the ability to reflect on transcendental issues related to life, death, suffering, the meaning of our existence, and our relationship with the universe. It leads us to ask ourselves profound life questions and helps us find answers that allow us to live more fully and consciously, although it also includes the ability to embrace uncertainty and not become distressed by the lack of answers.
From routine to transcendence: the importance of existential intelligence
We live in an age of constant distractions. Most of us are too busy surviving, rushing from one place to another, so we have little time to reflect on what truly matters and matters to us.
However, a lack of existential reflection can lead to an empty, shallow, and directionless life. When we become like leaves blown by the wind, it’s easy to fall into an existential void, where nothing seems to make sense or matter.
That’s where existential intelligence comes into play. Developing this capacity helps us face life’s challenges with greater maturity and purpose. In fact, a study conducted at New Era University College in Malaysia found that people with greater existential intelligence are also more resilient.
When we are aware of the finiteness of existence, we are not only forced to make more conscious choices, but we also learn to appreciate the moments that are truly worthwhile. Interestingly, when we understand and accept our mortality, we are less vulnerable and less likely to fall into existential anxiety.
Furthermore, existential intelligence allows us to find purpose beyond social, familial, or professional expectations. Instead of settling for pre-established goals or well-trodden paths, it invites us to explore what makes sense for us. It makes us reflect on what we can and want to contribute to the world, as well as seek the purpose that moves us.
Of all the types of intelligence, this one in particular helps us connect with what defines us. This way, we can build a more authentic life aligned with our values and desires, freeing us from the pressure to live up to expectations and giving us the freedom to choose our own path.
In the long run, this translates into greater well-being, greater serenity, and greater life satisfaction. This is corroborated by research conducted at Düzce Universities, which found that people with greater spiritual intelligence led more satisfying and meaningful lives.
Characteristics of Existential Intelligence, a unique combination of abilities
People with existential intelligence try to see the bigger picture. They don’t just question what’s happening, but rather explore the whys and wherefores of things. They are reflective, critical, and open to different perspectives, which allows them to connect ideas from diverse sources to form a more holistic view of existence and life.
1. Deep reflection
People with spiritual intelligence are tireless seekers. They aren’t satisfied with quick explanations or superficial answers. Why are we here? What happens after death? What is the purpose of everything we do? These kinds of questions don’t frighten them; they motivate them, so they approach them with an open and curious mindset, willing to explore uncertainty rather than shy away from it. This ongoing exercise in reflection allows them to develop a deeper and more nuanced perspective on life and the universe.
2. Sense of transcendence
Existential intelligence grants a unique ability to see beyond the worries of everyday life. Instead of focusing on what’s trendy, material, or the daily chaos, these people are able to tune into the deeper aspects of life. This level of transcendence helps them develop a more balanced perspective and often fuels a desire to contribute to something lasting, something that will outlive them. Therefore, they generally strive to leave a positive mark on the world.
3. Acceptance of uncertainty
Fear of the unknown is one of the most natural reactions in human beings, but people with existential intelligence have learned to embrace uncertainty as an inherent part of life. They don’t look for easy answers or feel uncomfortable with a lack of clarity. Instead of feeling threatened by the absence of certainties, they understand that life can be full of unanswered questions—and this doesn’t frighten or distress them. By accepting uncertainty, they are able to live with greater serenity while continuing their path of exploration.
4. Deep connection with nature and the universe
People with existential intelligence tend to have a more holistic view of the world, in which every element is interconnected. They don’t see human beings as the center of the universe, but rather perceive themselves as a small part of a larger network. This perspective generates a deep connection with nature and the universe.
They experience a sense of unity with everything around them, which gives them inner peace and a sense of belonging, knowing they are part of something much larger than themselves. Furthermore, their ability to understand interdependence leads them to live more consciously, respecting nature and all living beings.
5. Acceptance of mortality
One of the most notable characteristics of people with existential intelligence is their relationship with finitude. While most live in terror of dying, these individuals have developed a more mature understanding of this inescapable fact. They generally don’t view death as a terrifying end, but rather as a natural and inevitable transition. This perspective not only helps them face their own mortality with more serenity, but also helps them show greater empathy and understanding toward others in times of loss.
Accepting the finiteness of life also allows them to live more intensely, seizing every moment and seeking greater depth in their relationships and experiences. They don’t deny the reality of death, but rather integrate it as part of a cycle that gives meaning to life, a constant reminder that what truly matters is how we live while we are here.
How to develop Existential Intelligence?
Many of us live trapped in the inertia of the everyday, without stopping to think about what really matters. Existential intelligence invites us to do precisely the opposite: to question, reflect, and connect with ideas that go beyond our routine.
But can it be trained?
Yes. In fact, developing that ability can completely change the way we understand the world, make decisions, and approach life.
1. Start asking yourself deeper questions
If you haven’t ever asked yourself: What is my purpose in life? What is there after death? What does it mean to be truly happy? It’s time to start. Start questioning the universe around you or what you’ve been taught. Search for the whys—or at least try. Critical thinking and curious inquiry are not only essential for developing existential intelligence, but also for finding your place in the world and making more conscious decisions.
2. Explore existentialist philosophy and literature
Philosophers such as Socrates, Nietzsche, and Sartre, or writers like Camus, can be excellent traveling companions who will encourage you to think beyond conventions. In turn, exploring other philosophies, such as Taoism or animism, can offer you completely different perspectives on the meaning of life and existence. Reading more about these topics will allow you to understand how other great minds have approached the great existential questions. Obviously, reading is not enough. Don’t passively absorb these ideas; rework them to build your own worldview.
3. Look for moments of deep connection
Our daily routines push us to operate on autopilot, but to develop existential intelligence, we need to consciously pause from this hectic pace. You can practice mindfulness meditation, but you can also dedicate time to quiet reflection, discuss transcendental topics with friends or family, or connect with nature. Take a few minutes each day to reflect on life and your values. This way, you’ll be able to better understand yourself and find a deeper meaning in life.
In short, existential intelligence is a valuable skill for navigating modern life because it helps us embrace uncertainty and find meaning and purpose, which will give us greater serenity and direction in the long run. And if you don’t find all the answers in the end, don’t worry! The key lies in enjoying the search.
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